tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post4414516311842381168..comments2024-01-29T23:40:39.265-05:00Comments on Hysterectomy - the Experts Speak Out: Hysterectomy and Castration: the EnablersHERS Foundationhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08624611382874234485noreply@blogger.comBlogger184125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-90508462313801527052021-10-05T17:47:35.159-04:002021-10-05T17:47:35.159-04:00My Experience from Uk. I was Married 4 years with ...My Experience from Uk. I was Married 4 years with infertility, my journey has ended with the help of Dr Oyama. I have joined many infertility journey blogs online just to have a comforted heart over my problem and this has helped me to find the right man to help me cure this devastating problem. As a patient of endometriosis stage 3, it was really difficult to have a child but with the help of Oyama I got natural herbs and conceived within weeks of herbal treatment and before I knew it, I was finally pregnant. I never believed it was possible after 9 years of marriage. Thanks to everyone who has helped me both mentally and emotionally through this journey Oyama solved my problem with his natural herbs and I promise to manifest his work to other people and friends. WhatsApp Message/Call him on +2348108264684 and Email Oyama at: droyamasolutiontemple@gmail.com OYAMA HERBS CAN TREAT ALL KINDS OF STD/STIhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07405073046064505527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-26393553290502210412017-09-04T16:58:17.835-04:002017-09-04T16:58:17.835-04:00Denise,
I am glad positive thinking worked 5 mont...Denise,<br /><br />I am glad positive thinking worked 5 months post-op. <br /><br />For others reading your post there are some statements that need clarification. First, since you are taking estrogen and progesterone it is likely that your ovaries are removed. <br /><br />Hysterectomy, removal of the uterus, is not castration. The ovaries are the female gonads. The medical definition of castration is removal of the female or male gonads.<br /><br />The uterus is a hormone responsive sex organ that also supports the bladder and the bowel. After a hysterectomy the uterine contractions that occur with orgasm will no longer occur.<br /><br />During a hysterectomy the vagina is shortened and made into a closed pocket that is sutured together at the top. <br /><br />It is an unrealistic expectation that a mind over matter approach will make your body function as it did before your female organs were removed. If you had severe unrelenting pain that kept you from functioning because of a disease in your uterus, hysterectomy may relieve the pain. Hundreds of women have told HERS if they could turn the clock back and undo their hysterectomy, they would do it in a heartbeat. If anyone had told them the truth about the damaging effects of hysterectomy they would never have had the surgery.HERS Foundationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08624611382874234485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-46341502313693699312015-01-14T08:00:02.066-05:002015-01-14T08:00:02.066-05:00say no to oophrectomy, mastectomy, hysterectomy pr...say no to oophrectomy, mastectomy, hysterectomy prostactomy, orchioectomy, penectomy etc. I am not a doctor or a traditional medicine man. I'm just a believer in the integrity and dignity of the human genitalsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-21879195977967551602012-05-27T11:34:25.335-04:002012-05-27T11:34:25.335-04:00A hysterectomy is a huge decision, one that needs ...A hysterectomy is a huge decision, one that needs to be carefully thought out. I will tell you my story. I am 34 years old and had the surgery 5 months ago. I am not back to my old self, but getting there. I do take estrogen and progesterone. I had severe pain from cysts, endo, and fibroids. I had a total of 3 surgeries in a year. I had a wonderful doctor who tried to avoid this if possible. He has been there every step of the way and still working with me. Sometimes it takes awhile to get the hormones regulated. Sex honestly is better now then before. I have no pain and have no need for lubricants. I enjoy it more then before. I have no more bleeding. I actually lost 7 pounds with the surgery. I exercise every day. My drive is the same, it did take me some motivation to get my butt off the couch and get going but once I did I felt the old me come back. My only complaint is the lack of sleep from hot flashes, hormones aren't all the way in balance yet, but have faith they will be. SO ladies my advice to you, if you are suffering and your doctor isn't helping, find another one. There are many doctors that are a joke and will not listen, but there are others that will help you figure it out and you will feel better. Make yourself get up and do what you used to enjoy even if at first its a challenge. Eventually you will feel better. You just have to get up and live, it is possible. Sometimes a hysterectomy is necessary to improve your life. I do not personally view this surgery as a castration, I am still 100% a lady, I still have a vagina, and can give and receive pleasure.Denisenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-43654219199565452142010-07-19T21:07:19.072-04:002010-07-19T21:07:19.072-04:00I ended up with a total hysterectomy, too, because...I ended up with a total hysterectomy, too, because of a benign ovarian cyst and because of heavy pre-menopausal bleeding for which there would have been alternatives. I was given an abdominal midline incision, apparently so that the gyno specialist experienced in ‘surgical work’ didn’t need to make it hard for himself. When I was sent back to my GP with multiple post-operative complications, I was told that I (!) had got myself into a mess. The surgery has left me mutilated, maimed and disfigured. <br /><br />Hysterectomy surgeons force unconsented, unwanted and unwarranted surgeries on us and then refuse responsibility, accountability and liability for the consequences. In doing so, they are protected by their colleagues. Not just do doctors stick together against a patient, their medical association makes sure that nobody criticises how hysterectomy surgeons manage our health and treat our bodies. The AMA demands professional independence for its members and it dictates medical negligence laws. Investigations of professional misconduct, on those rare occasions when they occur at all, are internal to the association. The AMA is a peak pressure group with direct links to Health Departments, politicians, political parties, governments and the media. The health insurance industry buckles under this combined pressure and pays out, without questioning, when our healthy organs are needlessly removed and our overall health irreparably damaged. They all obey the doctrine “The doctor knows best”. <br /><br />Hysterectomy surgeons are one of the highest paid medical specialists. Yet, their fall-out is covered by the whole country. For example, adhesions occur in 70% to 90% of patients undergoing open gynaecological surgery. The total cost of adhesion-related problems in the United States is more than $1 billion annually. It keeps fellow doctors in business. <br /><br />I’m sure, hysterectomy surgeons wouldn’t advise their family members or friends to have these gruelling operations. But we are probably just pieces of meat on their operating tables.Connyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14295282643389860940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-18185194768697852302010-07-15T18:31:55.155-04:002010-07-15T18:31:55.155-04:00The insurance companies, as well as most organizat...The insurance companies, as well as most organizations and agencies that have the power to stop this, know full well the adverse effects of hysterectomy. It seems like we should be able to sue the insurance companies for paying these surgeons to remove our healthy organs.<br /><br />Dr. Richard Muckerman hysterectomized and castrated me for a benign ovarian cystadenoma. This was despite the recommendation of the oncologist to only remove the one ovary. However, the actions of the oncologist are also suspect. Yes, the deception is rampant in the gyn specialty and protecting their referral base is oftentimes more important than our health. <br /><br />And as most women experience, these doctors wash their hands of us post-op as they know full well that there's no fix / no recovery from hysterectomy. If we continued as their patients (not that we'd WANT to or have any NEED to), they may have to develop some sort of conscience when they are faced with the horrific consequences. I suspect their greed would still prevail. <br /><br />Dr. Muckerman was assisted by two ob/gyn graduate medical students, Dr. Jennifer Rock (now Massara practicing in Arizona) and Dr. Courtney White (now Slonkosky practicing in Nebraska).<br /><br />St. John's Mercy Medical Center is the perpetrator hospital that allowed Dr. Muckerman to remove my organs.Mad as Hellnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-30908689175301845642010-05-13T23:05:30.608-04:002010-05-13T23:05:30.608-04:00Once they’ve gutted our pelvises, they can easily ...Once they’ve gutted our pelvises, they can easily tell us to take our health problems elsewhere. There’s hardly anything left that they still deal with. It’s like selling Hamburgers at a train station. <br />Gynaecology is defined as the medical practice that deals with the health of the female reproductive system. Yet, that’s exactly what they rob us of.Connyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14295282643389860940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-81111230101378667792010-03-26T05:41:34.805-04:002010-03-26T05:41:34.805-04:00Sue, that's a great idea. We should hand out q...Sue, that's a great idea. We should hand out questionnaires outside of hysterectomy surgeons' consulting rooms asking women to describe and rate their health problems after their hysterectomies. We should then pass this information on to Health Departments, Governments, health insurers, and the media. <br />The hysterectomy industry has a worse health & safety record than any other industry I can think of. It is only because doctor-patient consultations are one-on-one that hysterectomy surgeons get away with this kind of deception. It a denial of facts, a denial of impact and a denial of responsibility.Benjihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09604970010448981699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-58002133936059165062010-01-11T23:39:38.039-05:002010-01-11T23:39:38.039-05:00I am amazed at how many doctors pretend that they&...I am amazed at how many doctors pretend that they've never heard of anyone having problems before. Is there a way that everyone who has ever complained to their doctor and been told that put their name down on a list under that doctor's name. So that when we are told that they never heard of the problems before we can say we'll actually so and so and so and so etc. have told you that too.<br />SueAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-65848258633712512482008-03-10T00:41:00.000-04:002008-03-10T00:41:00.000-04:00I had a total hysterectomy two years ago with a re...I had a total hysterectomy two years ago with a rectal repair.I felt good afterwards and my sex life was good. However, for the last 4 months I have had an aching pain in my lower right vaginal area. That is when my sexual problems began: no arousal feelings and it is almost impossible to have an orgasm. What is going on??? I saw a gastro-enterologist doctor who believes I have adhesions and scar tissue. Help! Can this be reversed? Any advice would be appreciated. SusanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-10512270001187757962008-01-27T15:08:00.000-05:002008-01-27T15:08:00.000-05:00Hysterectomy:the Enablerscontinued...Part IIPlease...Hysterectomy:the Enablers<BR/>continued...Part II<BR/><BR/>Please post your comment at:<BR/>http://hysterectomyinformation.blogspot.comHERS Foundationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08624611382874234485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-2629473267140852012008-01-27T15:06:00.000-05:002008-01-27T15:06:00.000-05:00Vila,Bravo, good for you!If you have the consent t...Vila,<BR/><BR/>Bravo, good for you!<BR/><BR/>If you have the consent to surgery form and would like to fax it to HERS at 610-667-8096 and we will help you to modify it so that it reflects what you will, and what you will not, consent to be done to you during the surgery. Surgical consent forms are designed to protect doctors and hospitals, not the patient. You can add anything that clarifies what you agree to, and you can cross out anything that is not accurate.<BR/><BR/>For instance, if the consent form says "I consent to a myomectomy and possible TAH/BSO" you can cross out "possible TAH/BSO" and write in "I consent to removal of fibroids only, I do not consent to removal of any other tissue from my body". TAH is total abdominal hysterectomy and BSO is bilateral salpingo-oophorectomy, which is castration ( removal of the ovaries). Do not accept a doctor or nurse telling you that the consent form must say possible TAH/BSO and that the doctor is not going to remove your uterus or ovaries. If it says "possible" and you sign it, you will give permission for the removal of your female organs. In a court room it is unlikely that the doctor or nurse will admit that they assured you your uterus and ovaries would not be removed.<BR/><BR/>If you do not have a copy of the surgical consent you can call the doctors office on Monday and ask them to fax it to you or you could pick it up at their office. It is not full proof, doctors can do whatever they want, but it adds a layer of protection.<BR/><BR/>Lastly, I'm going to ask you to please post your important comment again on the HERS new blog Post: http://www.hysterectomyinformation.blogspot.com <BR/><BR/>Everyone here willl be thinking about you on January 29th.HERS Foundationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08624611382874234485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-42529946873575434282008-01-27T14:39:00.000-05:002008-01-27T14:39:00.000-05:00I'm going in for my myomectomy on Jan. 29th. I kn...I'm going in for my myomectomy on Jan. 29th. I know this is a very serious matter and thanks to HERS I decided against the hysterectomy (which I was scheduled for before HERS). I'm nervous and seriously considering writing "Just the fibroids, please!" on my belly with a permanent marker on the day of the surgery.<BR/><BR/>What do you all think? Ok, Ok, I know it's a serious matter but I hope I got a few laughs....<BR/><BR/>I'll update to let you all know how I'm doing.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09651365244020809916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-40327120189822348932008-01-26T23:09:00.000-05:002008-01-26T23:09:00.000-05:00Hysterectomy:the Enablerscontinued...Part II:http:...Hysterectomy:the Enablers<BR/>continued...Part II:<BR/>http://hysterectomyinformation.blogspot.comHERS Foundationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08624611382874234485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-77522187915785112572008-01-23T16:02:00.000-05:002008-01-23T16:02:00.000-05:00Joyce, it is the norm for gynecologists to tell wo...Joyce, it is the norm for gynecologists to tell women they need a hysterectomy when in fact they don't. It is the norm for gynecologists to withhold information about alternatives and less invasive procedures, so they can make the profit from the hysterectomy. Most women have no idea they are being misled (before and after). Did your doctor tell you that your rectocele and your mild prolapse could be corrected without removing your uterus? Once these criminals start cutting on a woman, the damage has been done. You can't get your vagina back after they cut it up. It's not because your doctor is an old surgeon who is not up-to-date, it is because gynecologists are surgeons and they get paid more to do hysterectomies than other less invasive surgeries. When you realize that 1/3 of the women in the United States have had this done to them, and 90% are for benign conditions, you can't help but see something is terribly wrong. It's hard to believe this is allowed to go on in this country, but it's true. I'm sorry you were tricked just like the rest of us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-72953768247584506342008-01-23T06:49:00.000-05:002008-01-23T06:49:00.000-05:00Do all of you who have posted here,I feel so awful...Do all of you who have posted here,<BR/>I feel so awful I have not stated<BR/>this before, so please forgive me.<BR/><BR/>I have never said I do not know how<BR/>you, who continue to work - do it.<BR/>I commend you so very much, and I<BR/>could not say this more sincerely.<BR/>I could not. I already had the<BR/>disease of RSD/CRPS which did<BR/>disable me, but after the hyst.<BR/>there was no way I could be in the<BR/>work force - NO WAY! What stamina<BR/>you must have. There are days when<BR/>I can barely get out of bed to even<BR/>do a shower. Those are my bad<BR/>days which happen periodically.<BR/>I want to just stay in bed with a<BR/>heating pad over my abdomen or<BR/>under by back (my two main pain<BR/>areas after the hyst.). My pain<BR/>gets so bad I have to just shut<BR/>all the lights off and go to a<BR/>zone to relieve the pain. I also<BR/>find if I zone in on a program on<BR/>T.V., it will take my mind off of<BR/>the pain. Now, how could I do this<BR/>if I was working? Well, only at<BR/>a furniture store, and a very<BR/>understanding boss who gave very<BR/>long breaks...pretty much all day.<BR/><BR/>So, you out there who are working;<BR/>you are my heros. I hold high<BR/>regard for all of you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-78968410109873601262008-01-23T06:09:00.000-05:002008-01-23T06:09:00.000-05:00To Joyce,I do not know of any woman whoneeds a hys...To Joyce,<BR/><BR/>I do not know of any woman who<BR/>needs a hysterectomy. There always<BR/>has to be an alternative to this<BR/>insane act. I didn't understand<BR/>what you meant about wildly<BR/>negative. I assume you meant<BR/>the young ages these women are<BR/>having hysts. at. If so, you are<BR/>so right. I feel I was one. The<BR/>pain caused after a hysterectomy<BR/>cannot be better than before a<BR/>hyst., and that is why all these<BR/>women are posting here. Think of<BR/>all the women out there who are<BR/>suffering just the same after a<BR/>hyst., but have not even posted<BR/>here. I was finished having any-<BR/>more children, but think of the<BR/>young women who have had hysts.<BR/>who can never have any children<BR/>who did want them? It makes me<BR/>sick to dwell on for very long.<BR/>If there was a poll taken for just<BR/>the year 2005 of all the women who<BR/>had hysts., and they would answer<BR/>if they are happy with this surgery<BR/>in the aftermath; I guarantee you<BR/>it would be a very, very small<BR/>amount of women saying they are.<BR/>I guarantee you a high percentage<BR/>would list they have more pain now<BR/>they they did before the surgery.<BR/>I say 2005, because 2006 and 2007<BR/>would be too soon to do this poll,<BR/>because doctors tell women that it<BR/>takes time to heal and feel better.<BR/>That is exactly what my doctor told<BR/>me. "Oh, my dear, it might be a<BR/>year or so before you feel better<BR/>after this surgery." Those were<BR/>his exact words. So I waited, and<BR/>I waited, and I waited. I think<BR/>he was really trying to have the<BR/>time go by to get past the statute<BR/>of limitations in our state.<BR/><BR/>If you are one of the lucky ones,<BR/>who feel better after a hyst., I<BR/>am happy for you, but it sounds<BR/>as if you have problems already.<BR/>I wish I had advice on your<BR/>particular situation. I do not.<BR/>I do wish you the best, and hope<BR/>you do find solutions. I would<BR/>hope Nora might avail you with<BR/>some insight.<BR/><BR/>Please never think we who do post<BR/>here are negative. This would be<BR/>the wrong word. We are hopeful<BR/>for answers, I do believe. Hurt,<BR/>yes. Upset, yes. Angry, yes,<BR/>but positive for each other, and<BR/>begging for answers to help with<BR/>our pain and trials we have gone<BR/>through and continue to do so. We<BR/>need to get the word out to other<BR/>women to stop this inhumane act by<BR/>doctors. There is no better word<BR/>for it, in my opinion.<BR/><BR/>I wish for you the best.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-16436432848678289532008-01-23T00:34:00.000-05:002008-01-23T00:34:00.000-05:00I had a hysterectomy over 10 months ago, with just...I had a hysterectomy over 10 months ago, with just removal of uterus for mild prolapse and rectocele. My vagina is now too short. Is there anything now that can be done for this, or will I just have to deal with it? Also, will there be anything I can do if further repairs or needed--or is cutting the vagina the only way to repair things now? Does anyone posting here know about this?<BR/><BR/>YIKES! I would be interested to know more of the ages of these women--they seem so young! This seems wildly negative--and I know that there are many women who need and receive hysterectomies, and it relieves their pain or discomfort. Unfortunatly, I probably had an old surgeon who was not up to date and did not assess me properly--but this is not the norm, I hope. Or is it???<BR/><BR/>I'd appreciate response. Thank you so very much for your honesty. Idon't mean that you're negative on this site, it's just that it's hard because it really is bad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-33465890257139389872008-01-23T00:26:00.000-05:002008-01-23T00:26:00.000-05:00I NEED info about depression and hysterectomy. A ...I NEED info about depression and hysterectomy. A year after I had mine (had hyst 4 yrs ago) I was having anxiety attacks and depression. I've taken Zoloft and Wellbutrin for depression but my mood swings are terrible. Could this be a result of hysterectomy? From what I read here I think I've found the answer. How come none of the doctors told me????Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-51548336050121230962008-01-22T15:45:00.000-05:002008-01-22T15:45:00.000-05:00Okay I sit here wondering how to say what i feel c...Okay I sit here wondering how to say what i feel crying my eyes out after reading all this storys that are so close to home. I had a hysterectomy when i was 28. I too am unable to carry on a life that i once had. I have no feelings what so ever for anything but my kids... Seems there are the only ones who have not turned on me because of my medicial problems that i have had since my surgery. No one seems to understand the truth to the way i feel inside. I dont even feel like a woman no more like an empty shell of who I once was fighting to get it back. I dont feel like I can be a wife because it seems that no matter how hard I try its never good enough for him makes me feel like im inaddequite for him. He always is gonna leave me to find someone who can love him right make him happy. Being acussed of sleeping with someone else because not sleeping with him. Dont they understand its not them its a problem with me i dont want a sexual realatioship at all with no man. Leaves me feeling that im not a woman enought to please him. Which also effects my kids because there dad is always gonna leave because there mom cant please him or make him happy enough to stay here. So not only am i miserable seems my kids are also being affected by the outcome of my surgery. Once again i was told that the sex life would improve after the surgery the pain would go away he didnt tell me my sexual desires and interests would also go away.. It was a great concern that having the surgery would change my marriage and sexual life i was assured not only by the doctor but also by my husand everything would be okay...boy was everyone wrong!!! My husband has left me numberous times mainly over sex issues if i cant make him happy he will just go find someone who can. Well let me tell ya you can only be told this so many times until nothing at all matters anymore. I truley no the only reason im still sane is my two kids i love with all my heart or im not sure where id be right now!! I suffer day after day and there dont seem to be a end in sight if there is any help out there for me please please let me no my email address is slb111974@yahoo.com... Thanks for listening to my storyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-27451761438988875012008-01-22T13:30:00.000-05:002008-01-22T13:30:00.000-05:00The last deleted comment has been re-posted. It co...The last deleted comment has been re-posted. It contained a link to a web site with information that is potentially damaging for women. Although HERS appreciates the effort to share information, we do not post web sites that promote products or services.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-16174592832268208222008-01-22T13:26:00.000-05:002008-01-22T13:26:00.000-05:00I have also tried to stop women from getting butch...I have also tried to stop women from getting butchered, and although I think I've saved a few (one was horrified when she learned her vagina would be sewn into a pocket), but for the most part, I am categorized as a negative person and attacked. I've had part of my posts removed by administrators. I've also had women just go ahead with it anyway. It's sad we have to go through this to try and help someone, but I think the more we speak up, the more impact it will have. Please everyone on this blog. Let other women know how this ruins your life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-147866806959876722008-01-22T13:02:00.000-05:002008-01-22T13:02:00.000-05:00Dutch:You are a compassionate man as are the other...Dutch:<BR/>You are a compassionate man as are the other male posters here. I for one welcome male input because it's good to get this perspective. Thank you, and good luck. My husband is angry at the treatment I received. We thought it was a life saving operation and to be mutilated in such a way has impacted on us both. We both continue to be intimate and thankfully I can talk to him. He worries about hurting me but I know it's something we can work out. <BR/><BR/>This is from Germaine Greer's book 'The Change, Women, Ageing and the Menopause.<BR/><BR/>'The evangelism of hysterectomised women is irrational, the patients themselves often proselytize for the particular form of devastation that they have undergone, convinced that after it they feel better than they did before.'<BR/><BR/>This for me sums up the nonsense I see on hysterectomy forums and I nearly had a fit when I read on one a woman who wrote about life being great after the 'nursery' was gone. Angry doesn't even begin to sum up my feelings.<BR/><BR/>I posted as anon further up. I'm going to sue regarding my abusive surgery, I'm from the UK. I read recently that the NHS (our health system) is to revise the amount of hysterectomies it performs yearly. My heart leapt. At last I thought they have seen the error of their ways. Until it was revealed that this was being done to save money. Ah yes we women know our worth in life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-68095395855404043342008-01-22T09:43:00.000-05:002008-01-22T09:43:00.000-05:00I really want my wife to get on this and see what ...I really want my wife to get on this and see what everyone has said, but I am afraid of how she will react. I am afraid as much as it might help, the hard truths will make things harder. While I believe she is struggling with what everyone is talking about, I am not completely sure of everything. The last 3-4 months have been an incredible challenge as you all know. The two months preceding the surgery and the last month since. As much as it as helped me with what I have read all of you say, I am also scared, maybe more than I ever have been. Scared for the future. Scared because I want to help so much, but I don't know how and as a result, I have ended making things more tense. In general, things have been better than before the surgery in some ways. However, some of our better days are normal work days. Some of our hardest days are weekends because I am so protective. I just want to talk to her, hold her and take care of her like I always have. I know she knows this, but because she is struggling so much, I also know I have to give her space. She is a strong person and always has been even though she doesn't always want to realize it. She is trying to work a lot of this out on her own. Because of who she is, this is her way. I know it basically has to be this way - on her terms. I just want her to know there is help in the form of this website. Any of your responses help me a lot, being from the female perspective to help me know how to help her. If any of you can get your husbands/partners to respond, I would appreciate it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326528465005359200.post-38124317341538112882008-01-22T06:07:00.000-05:002008-01-22T06:07:00.000-05:00ARE YOU READING THIS DOCTORS? ARE YOU BELIEVING TH...ARE YOU READING THIS DOCTORS? ARE YOU BELIEVING THAT YOU HAVE BUTCHERED US? ARE YOU HAPPY WITH YOUR CAREER THAT DESTROYS OUR LIVES? Some very beautiful and courageous women have written on this blog. It is not easy to open up your personal life and tell everyone what has really happen to us. To the women who are thinking about taking your life. PLEASE, just get back in bed and stay there. Some days I was so scared I would just get back in bed until I was thinking clear. DON'T TAKE YOUR LIFE. Then everyone will just say, see she was crazy! During the first two years, I too, was thinking about it because I was so sick and just couldn't go on, BUT, I had a family that needed me even if I wasn't well. We will help you. I know it is hard to go on, but everyone of us on this blog have had the same thoughts. We now need to get even with the doctors that are doing this to us by passing a law, writing editorial, passing out Hers brochures all over, YES, even in the hospitals and bathrooms. Thank you husbands and boyfriends for writting in. It is so important to hear from you because I know it is affected your life also. We need the men on our team to fight this. I will say it again-if every doctor who castrated us would also be castrated, THIS WOULD STOP! I challenged you to put your doctors name on here and send Hers a donation. I really hope you will do that because it is so important. I do understand if you are going through a law suit you can't, but everyone else can. We need to see the doctors who are getting by with castrating women so we don't go to them. You are doing women an unjustice if you don't post their names. There is no doubt we have all been deceived and destroyed and for what, $$$$.Graciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10963629715157154526noreply@blogger.com